Top love languages for kids and parents
As a parent knowing your child’s love language can make all the difference in the world. It can create a huge improvement in your relationship with your child.
Have you ever given a thoughtfully picked out gift to your child only for them to half- heartedly thank you or tried to hug them after they come back from school and they try to wiggle out?
This is understandable as you might have a different love language than them which is why it might be difficult for you to bond with them as they keep growing up.
The concept of love language was introduced by Dr Gary Chapman who said adults and kids have 5 different love languages.
Trying to find out your child’s love language can take time especially when they are younger. As babies or pre-schoolers they don’t have a primary love language and need to be shown love in all the forms. But then they grow up, you can try finding out their primary love language by trying out all the forms and see what gets their best reaction.
These love languages are as follows:
1- Physical Touch
Example:- tickle fight, hugs, kisses, pat on the back
Any physical touch, like kisses and hugs are one of the most common form of love language.
For children who’s love language is physical touch will connect to you more deeply when you bond with them through various activities rather than just talk with them through words.
The need hugs, cuddles, kisses, pats on the back to feel loved by you.
2- Affirming Words
Example:- compliments, encouraging notes, positive texts
Some children might prefer hearing affirmative words that encourage them, motive them or praise them.
When you say affirming words to your child, they tend to remember it for a lifetime as it’s their form of love language.
3- Quality Time
Example:- walks, reading books, painting, movie time
This means giving your child your undivided attention.
Spending this time with your child will help them feel like they are important to you and that they matter.
You can schedule a block of time everyday to spend some quality time with your child without the use of mobile phones to distract you. You can read their favourite book to them, sit and paint, listen to music or have a dance session together.
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The most important thing to remember is that the child loves spending time with you no matter what you both are doing.
4- Gifts
Example:- unexpected treats, small gifts
The giving and receiving gifts can be an important form of love language between you and your child.
Some children see getting gifts as an extension of you and your love to them.Your gifts can be inexpensive but meaningful to them that they will keep with them for years on end.
5- Acts Of Service
Example:- help them, support their hobby
Your child’s love language can be acts of services which means when they ask you to help them out for homework or fix that cycle or teach them to bake cupcakes for their friends they are giving out a cry for help and look upto you to help them out.
By helping them out, they will grow up to always depend on you when times get tough for them and will feel more comfortable opening up to you.
Conclusion
It’s important to remember that while one of these five are their primary love language, it’s still important to show them all forms of love.
As you find out their primary love language, you will start to see your bond deepen as they truly feel loved and safe to be with you.
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